Showing posts with label work at home. Show all posts
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Wednesday, April 6, 2016

A simple way Your Job Might Be Holding You Back



How Your Job Might Be Holding You Back

Are you working for someone else or do you write your own paycheck?  If you are an employee instead of an owner, you may be limiting yourself more than you realize.  As long as you continue to work for someone else, you can be held back in a number of ways.  Consider some of these unattractive facts about being an employee.

First, you are never in control of your own destiny.  There is a longstanding myth that if you work hard enough and do a good enough job, you will work your way up the corporate ladder to a position of wealth and relative power.  Some people do manage to climb up from entry-level positions to management posts, but most do not.  Somewhere along the line, we decided to pretend as if the exception really is the rule.

What happens if the company’s sales force fails to close enough deals to fuel expansion (or even maintenance of the status quo)?  What happens if your boss decides to model his behavior after Kenneth Lay or the other once-successful heads of Enron?  All of your hard work goes up in a puff of smoke.

That holds true on more “down to earth” levels, too.  If the person in the cubicle next to you decides to play video games instead of finishing his report or happens to come down with a nasty case of the flu, the forty hours of hard work you offered will not be enough.  You will be on-site Saturday afternoon picking up someone else’s slack.  You will be telling yourself these extra hours are greasing the promotion track, but you have no way of knowing if that is true.

That is because much of that will depend on the personalities and attitudes of those who outrank you.  You are at the mercy of middle managers who may or may not like you or who might have an inaccurate perception of your value relative to other employees.  Your future becomes a matter of corporate politics.  That is not a reassuring thought.

Second, you will always be capped off.  Unless you rise to the top, amass a huge fortune, and then somehow buy out the company, you will always be an employee, serving at the behest of a boss who can release you at any time.  You will never really get to be in charge.  You will never truly control your future.

Sure, you might have authority over some aspects of your division.  You might get to hire and fire a few people.  Who knows, you might even get a company car, good benefits and a gold-plated watch at age sixty-five when you finally decide you have punched the clock for the very last time.  You can gain little pieces of control, but you will always be at the mercy of people and powers that outrank and control your financial and professional future.

Third, you will never know what you might have really been able to accomplish.  You only get one chance at life, and it seems almost sad that you can spend it without ever really testing yourself, your ideas or your skills.  Nonetheless, that is what happens to those who remain employees. 

When your working days are over, do you want to know that you were part of a company that did well or performed poorly based on the actions of many other people and forces over which you had virtually no control?  Some people are comfortable with the idea of being a good cog in a successful machine, but others want more.  They want to know that they were capable of building something that mattered to them.

Of course, the right person can shed those limitations.  The right person can decide to start their own business.  They can slip away from a dead-end, low-paying job or a nice comfortable corporate existence and take a chance to work without externally imposed limitations and hindrances.  There are varieties of ways to do that.  One of the most popular and successful is by escaping the workforce and establishing a home-based business.  It can be a wonderful way to reach for something more.

Working at home (AVOIDING THE SUPER-MOM SYNDROME)

WORK AT HOME MOMS: 
AVOIDING THE SUPER-MOM SYNDROME

Many women in today’s society are concerned about their abilities to be a great mom.  As any mother knows, it is tough to not compare yourself to others, and while one mom may be a fantastic caregiver, she will almost always find fault with her parenting styles and/or abilities. 

She begins to feel stress about her duties as “mom,” “wife,” and “housekeeper.”  The pressure to be the so-called “super mom” builds even more when she is a work at home parent, and adds “employee” to the list. 

Working at home while raising children has become wildly popular with today’s families, as costs for childcare and commuting to work skyrocket.  With more and more moms, and dads, entering the work at home field, the dynamics of the family as we know it are changing. 

You might think the pressure to be a “super mom” would be less for those able to spend time at home with the children, but there are other things to take into consideration.  For one, moms that work at home are probably still be viewed as the main caregiver, housekeeper, and organizer. 

When spouses and other family members fail to contribute to the household, moms often take the burden of doing it all, often without complaint, because they feel the need to be that “super mom.” 

This can be a dangerous trap for moms to fall into.  While the family has clean laundry, an impeccably cleaned kitchen, a nice meal to come home to and money in the bank account, mom herself is falling apart.  The key to keeping it together is keeping it in perspective.  Moms who work at home may earn less than they did in the corporate world, but they have schedules that are more flexible and get to spend more time with their family. 

To avoid overwork as a result of wanting to become a mom who does it all, it is important for mothers to remember what is important to them.  Why was the decision made to work at home instead of in a traditional office? 

Often the answers involve children, money, and flexibility.  Getting raise her children, saving money on childcare, and having the flexibility for when children are sick are key ingredients in the work at home mom’s life. 

The best “super mom” is the mom who takes care of herself as much as she does her family.  It is impossible to have the energy and patience to deal with young children, a messy house, or an unmotivated spouse if mom gets minimal sleep, or leaves little time to eat healthy and relax from the everyday stresses that come with parenting. 

In addition, giving too much to others, becoming a “people pleaser,” is a sure way to enter a cycle in which moms give so much they eventually withdraw all help and resent those whom she actually bent over backwards to help previously. 

When moms can learn to take care of themselves with the energy that they give to their families, they will be in the right frame of mind to prioritize the needs within the family dynamic.  She can be the best mom for her family, while avoiding the trap and pitfalls of becoming a “super mom.”